Rant of an irritated mind – A to Z Challenge

With the case of ‘coloured discomfort’ faced by many Indians across the world, because of Nina Davuluri (an American with Indian heritage who won the Miss America pageant in 2013), that seems to be a another pin holding up the masks of the general public, laced with hypocrisy. If many an Indian smarted at the behaviour of Americans, we can’t get away just by calling them racist. How different are we in our own homeland?

India… the ‘land of snake charmers, white elephants and a tribe of beggars who stick up their begging bowls right under your face’. Do you think we’ve changed? Changed from the many prehistoric notions we nursed under our hood, whether it included homosexuality or even looking up to certain careers as the only way forward? But sometimes I doubt we’ve changed at all when even in the best of cities, best of working environments, among the best of colleagues one is ridiculed for their body weight, amoebic shape and… you get the gist.

If certain groups are fighting against prejudice towards skin colour, then pray, does a perfect body type rule the world?

The other day, the HR personnel in my office asked me… ‘Are you dieting?’ I said, ‘No.’ And then she said, ‘Haan, lag bhi nahi raha hain.’ (It doesn’t look like it anyway.)

I mean I get it to a certain level. She was going to get married in a few months, and looking good was on her agenda. But why be spiteful towards others? We, ‘fat people’, sure must put on a heavy armour everyday before we leave home for our respective work places. Why are we incapable of accepting people the way they are. Does everyone want everyone to look alike? Have the world looking like the Stepford Wives?

A friend of mine, to whom I mostly relate these moments told me that ‘I am delusional… I must not let them get the better of me, body type is not directly or indirectly proportional to your worth (whichever way we assume the factors).’ But then again, with a ‘perfect’ body, beautiful ‘long hair’ (just the way India and the rest of the world like it) and a dazzling smile, you do not live my world. You do not have to struggle through everyday avoiding stinging jabs at your personality.

Do we not relate it all to beauty? DO elaborate what constitutes a beautiful object. Does not an old proverb say beauty lies in the eye of the beholder? So must I deem my worth according to what the other person thinks.

Students, activists, factions of the general public strive to make the world a better place to live. They protest, they rant and they fight for the poor, against the corrupt, the greedy, etc. It makes me think, that if they harboured this flame of unrest and undying need to fight for a stranger, why can they not understand the need of a friend? Cause I still have my hands and legs and can work for myself? Why can people not start to revolutionise the society at their own level? A step at a time, try to reason with friends and family, one person at a time? Or have we romanticised the experience of sitting at Jantar Mantar and spending an entire lifetime shouting and putting up placards to fight against corrupt individuals and organisations?

You may label me as moody, misreading the words and actions of others. Then why do I feel humiliated and hurt on the inside?

This post is part of the seventh annual A to Z Challenge that takes place in the month of April. The theme for this month is ‘Every Day Musings’. It’s my first attempt at this. Feedback is most welcome, constructive criticism, even more. Share your experiences and let’s enjoy this month of fabulous blogging. If you want to know more about this challenge, click here.

26 thoughts on “Rant of an irritated mind – A to Z Challenge

  1. I totally agree with you. People are not happy or sad with their lives, but more jealous than seeing other person happy. I don’t understand this funda. Why don’t people live happily and let others live happily? Nobody tried this, it’s so much fun and easy. Thanks for sharing, though. Keep writing!! :)

    @bloggerabhi1 from


  2. Prejudice is everywhere, not just in India I’m afraid. Being overweight is a health issue and not really much to do with aesthetics, being underweight is also not healthy. Neither does it look beautiful.

    Fortunately my generation grew up with a different set of norms for beauty and body image, though there was prejudice in our time also. But we were not bombarded 24/7 with images of photoshopped stick-thin celebrities on TV and social media. Young people nowadays have a much tougher time.

    No-one has the right to ask anyone else if they are dieting or not and tell them what size, shape, or colour they should be. Anywhere in the world.

    Well-written post, kudos. A little disheartening to think the kind of gratuitous stress we hand out unthinkingly to each other.

    Best wishes for the rest of the challenge,

    Ninja Minion, A-Z 2016


  3. Well we are global in this aspect I can confirm, because globally self image is a big deal especially for the more rotund folks! The well-endowed folks are always at the receiving end! Eliminate discrimination they say…but how do you dispel something that is so steeped in the genes? I say to hell with them! I wear and do what I feel like, those who can’t bear to watch, go cover your eyes!


  4. Jennifer Aniston named ‘World’s Most Beautiful Woman’ by People. She is 47 years old. It is all about taking care of your self and nothing about age, race, nationality or dieting.

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  5. Ummm yes we aren’t changed at all .
    Dieting or asking anyone to diet just rises my temper .

    Why will anyone diet ?
    And who are people to comment on other people body or shape ?
    This is disgusting .

    Now a days everyone know best to take care of themselves by exercise or walks

    I hate those who says she is fatty or like that …there is her ‘health’ she need strength to work for family and all
    And if she maintains a size zero they all will take her to doctor sometimes fainting , headache n all.

    The good thing about other countries is people mind their own business.


  6. The problem is that we are ‘programmed’ to prefer beauty – a study showed that even infants in their cradles reacted positively to beautiful people in comparison to the ones who were ‘ugly’. A lot of training and reprogramming necessary to see beyond the cover…


  7. Gosh! She said that? I would have raised a case against her. That’s insulting to say the least. I think most people in the world so by physical standards cos that’s the best that seen at that moment. It’s wrong but happens and not just in India. India we are obsessed with fair, in US with tanned :)


  8. Indians themselves are the biggest hypocrites with regards to skin color, body image nowadays. A few days back, my 11 year old asked me if he can diet. To say I was shocked is an understatement. In fact, he is underweight for a 11 year old. But, in his mind, he is fat because some of the boys say so. I had a tough time getting him to dispel the idea.


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